Sunday, May 8, 2011

Angeles de la frontera!

The week after Easter was Verbum Dei's spring break. For the past several years they have had alternative break service trips that take place during spring break for a select group of students that wish to participate. This year the trip was to San Diego and I volunteered to be the male faculty chaperon on the trip. It was one of the best decisions that I have made during my year in JVC!

The trip left on the evening of Easter from our school. There were ten students, Julie, Krista(FJV who now works at the school), myself, and one of the student's grandmas who spoke no English. It was quite the eclectic group from the start, but in hindsight we couldn't have picked a better group of guys.

Before leaving the school on Sunday, we had a brief prayer service with all of the students and their parents. It was short, but a nice opportunity to share some of our hopes and fears for the week with all of the parents present. After the prayer service we packed up the vans and took off south for the quick two hour drive to San Diego. One of the students moms made papusas (a Salvadorian dish) for all of to eat as a snack on our way down. They were AWESOME. It was fun to hang out and eat dinner at some random truck stop with all the guys. I knew at that moment that it was going to be an awesome week.

The group that we were working with all week is an organization called Border Angels. Their primary focus is to encourage comprehensive, humane immigration reform. Along with this central mission, they engage in other direct service activities such as leaving water in the desert for those trying to cross the border through the desert and giving out sandwiches/water to day laborers who are waiting all day to find work. Out of the ten students that we brought on the trip, 9 were of Latino heritage. So there was a direct connection that most of our guys could make.

We stayed at the headquarters of the organization, which is in the offices of a church in a town called Lemon Grove just East of San Diego. It was essentially one large room that had a kitchen, one couch, a few tables, a television, and plenty of floor space. Even thought there was plenty of floor space, it soon dawned on me that I would be sharing a room/bathroom with ten high school boys for an entire week. Sleep was not something that I was going to get a
lot of during the week!

Isabella was the worker for the organization that was going to be working most directly with us for the week. When we showed up Sunday night she was waiting for us with a smile. Literally everything we needed for the week was taken care of by her.

On Monday morning we started off the week with the Border Patrol. Being from the Midwest, I have never had much interaction with the border patrol. Walking into their headquarters, I really did not know what to expect. They were awesome. The job of a border patrol agent is not an easy one, but the three agents that gave us a tour were so enthusiastic and informed. After a quick presentation at the headquarters, we loaded up into two vans and headed for the border. The driver of our van was named Rudy and looked like GI Joe. He was from Texas and spent four years in the navy before joining border patrol. He was very candid and answered any questions that any of us had. If you ever go the the border, you will notice that there are two fences. The first is called the primary fence, and this fence runs along the actual border and is intended to keep vehicles from crossing the boarder. Then there is the secondary fence, which is much higher and covered for the most part in sharp razor wire. In between the two fences is a road that the border patrol uses. This is that same road that we drove on during our tour. It was incredible noting the difference between the two sides of the border. To the south was a shanty town section of Tijuana and to the north was a cluster of beautiful homes in America. We drove all the way to the ocean where the border ends. No matter what a persons feelings are on immigration, a trip to the border is a very powerful experience.

After the border tour, we met up with Enrique Morones, who is the man who founded Border Angels. He came to Verb once last semester to give a talk, and it was nice to hear from him again. He gave a general overview of the organization and how he came to found it.

That night a man from San Clemente came and talked about some work he was doing in Sausiby, Mexico trying to fight the drug cartels on the other side of the border through education. It was a great perspective on why so many people are trying to cross the border and how reform on the Mexican side of the border is one of the greatest things that can be done to help the immigration issue in our country. Also his wife is from Nebraska and went to undergrad where I am going to law school at next year, so we naturally bonded.

After a semi-restful night of sleep, a Phd student at SDSU who has done research on day laborers came over and led us on a tour to the various sites around San Diego where day laborers are found. We brought sandwiches and water with us and it was very interesting hearing the various stories of the workers (some documented and others not). The issue definitely takes on a more human element once faces and stories are involved. After the tour we decided to take all the guys to Coronado island. If you are ever in San Diego, Coronado is a must see. It is absolutely beautiful. We rented bikes and rode around the island with the guys where Julie and I immediately realized that you can take the kid out of south central, but you cannot take the south central out of the kid. Within two minutes of riding, one of the guys tried to stand on his bike while riding and crashed..... It was a blast though, one of the most fun things we did all week. That evening we decorated crossed that we would be using later on in the week.

Wednesday we had the day off and decided to go hiking East of San Diego. Despite the long drive and the fact that we got lost several times, it was wonderful. It was not an easy hike though, and some of the students did struggle a bit.... however everyone (including grandma!) finished the 6.5 mile hike in the mountains. After the hike we watched a documentary called the "Lemon Grove Incident" that told the story of a segregation case that took place in the 1930s where the school board tried to separate the Mexican children from the Caucasian students in school. It failed, which is without a doubt a good thing.

Thursday we spent the day with Enrique. We started by driving to a valley an hour or so East of the city to drop off water in the desert. People die often of dehydration walking through the desert, so hopefully our actions helped save a few lives. Plus it gave the kids another opportunity to climb around in the desert. After dropping off water, we drove another hour or so to a potters grave. It was located in an unmarked location behind the towns normal cemetery. Over 700 unknown people were buried in this location, the largest in the country that is not a military grave site. We placed all of our crosses we decorated in the cemetery as a sign of respect for those who died. It was one of the saddest experiences I have participated in in a long time. On the way home we took one more quick stop at the border. It was a very powerful day, and I think that the guys really got a lot out of it.

Thursday night we had a bonfire on the beach. It was the first time that many of our guys had ever had a s'more. We definitely opened their eyes to a new world, ha. We sang songs, talked, and it was one of the greatest experiences that I have had with the verb guys all year. They are simply great guys, and I am proud of all of them.

Friday consisted of clean up, a failed attempt to serve lunch at a homeless shelter, and a final reflection about the experience. Of course no one wanted to leave, so we spent roughly 4 hours on Coronado again playing volleyball and just hanging out on the beach. Our last reflection took place on the beach and it was incredible. We had dinner at a Verb student staple: Dennys. By the time we got back home it was after midnight, and I still didn't want to go home.

I am so blessed to be at a school like Verb for my year in JVC. The guys are incredible and the faculty/staff are even more incredible. My spring break could not have been better and I am so grateful for the experience.

This past week was Teachers appreciation week at Verb, so much food and fun. It was also my birthday and cinco de mayo, so the celebrations just went all week.

I am already 75% done with my time here in LA and I don't think I am ready to leave. I can already tell how much I am going to miss it, but I still have 3 months left and I intend to make the absolute best of it!

As always I miss and love all of you. I hope to see everyone soon and talk even sooner!

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Traveling!

It has been over six weeks since I last wrote a blog post, and it may have been the most eventful six weeks of my JVC year!

Four weeks ago I was able to go on a service trip to Tijuana, Mexico with Loyola Marymount University. The trip is called De Colores and it happens about once a month. In the past couple of years they have been encouraging a few JVs to go on each trip in order to grant LMU students the opportunity to interact with people who are currently doing a year of post graduation volunteer work. All of my other roommates had already been on a trip besides Julie, so the two of us plus a Jesuit Novice named David who works at Verb. It was such a wonderful opportunity.

The trip left on a Friday evening and we spent the first night in San Diego at the house of the couple that founded the trip when they were students at LMU 20 plus years ago. It was so cool to have the chance to hear the story of how an idea as simple as helping people in Mexico can turn into a life long passion. They have managed to do something that is often hard to do, which is live a life of financial success while concurrently being extremely devoted to those in need. They spend a few weekends every month down in Tijuana building homes for people in need. Meeting them provided a great inspiration for living a passionate life.

The following day (amidst apprehensions from my parents) we crossed the border into Mexico. When I was in high school I went on a service trip to El Paso where we crossed the border into Juarez, so this was only the second time I had the chance to cross the border. Upon crossing it was immediately clear that I was in a much poorer, different country. Everything from the infrastructure to the way people dressed was different. After crossing we went straight to a school located in a town on the eastern side of TJ. The rest of that morning was spent mixing cement for a concrete pad at the school. There were only around 25 of us on the trip but waiting for us at the school was a group of over 50 Mexican families who were ready to work, and work hard! In the US when concrete is needed for a large project we have the luxury of having a cement truck back right up to the pad and pour in premixed concrete. This luxury is simply not fiscally achievable in many parts of the world, so we began the lengthy/tiring process of mixing away! Within 4 hours we were finished and had completed a 10x100 foot pad of concrete. It was an inspiring experience to watch how hard the families were working in order to better their community. The government simply does not have the resources to build simple infrastructure such as school for communities, so the communities are forced to do it themselves.

Following my stint as a concrete mixer we were served an incredible/authentic Mexican lunch where I used far to much of the hot sauce I was warned about..... After lunch we drove to the neighborhood where LMU had built a community center. This community center served as our home for the night and we had the chance to see some of the homes in the neighborhood that had been built by the organization the Norths started. Dinner was served at a place called Casa del Migrante. This center serves as a home for men who had been recently deported from the United States or were in town from Southern Mexico about to attempt to cross the border. Since my Spanish is not yet up to par i was luckily able to sit across from a man who spoke English. He had been living in the United States for over 20 years. Once say he was returning a friends car from his shop (he was a mechanic) and was pulled over because the license plates had expired the previous month. It was an extremely unfortunate situation for someone especially since it was one that was not even his fault. When he was deported he left behind his 2 high school aged children and his wife. He told me that he has been gone for so long that he no longer knows anyone in Mexico. No matter what your feelings are on immigration, it is truly heartbreaking to see firsthand a family being broken up with end in sight.

The night on Saturday was filled with two staples of Mexican culture: dancing and soccer! Four guys from LMU and I lost a close battle to some Mexican boys but we gave our best shot. The game was played on a dirt field with goals that were made out of plywood. There was a house covered in chicken wire that bordered one end of the field so that it would not get too beat up by being constantly pounded by soccer balls. It caused me to pause and think about the finely groomed fields that I grew up playing sports on. It didn't seem to matter what quality the field was, kids will be kids and never stop playing.

After a restful nights sleep on a concrete floor we spent our last morning at an orphanage. Since there was a pretty steep language barrier with the kids, I took command and made pancakes for everyone. It was a challenge at first, but I was able to get it down to a science by the end of the cooking session. I had breakfast with a few of the kids and played a game or two before leaving. Following the orphanage we packed up the van and made our journey through a two hour border crossing. All in all it was a great but exhausting weekend in Mexico. I would highly recommend making the trip to another country no matter how close/far it is!

After a week of work I was able to make the trip back to Omaha for a quick weekend trip. Luckily that same weekend my mom and sister Erin were passing through town to look at the University of Nebraska for college. While the decision not to attend UNL was made fairly quickly, it was a great opportunity to see them for dinner on Saturday. After dinner Michelle and I met up with my roommate Ken for next year at his parents house. It was a great time and really affirmed my thoughts that I was going to be living with a great person with a great family. It is going to be a great experience in Lincoln next year!

That night Michelle and I took Erin on a great tour of Creighton. We both put in every possible bit of effort we had left, but she decided to go to University of Portland! She is going to have a great experience there, I have no doubt. The next day I had to head back to LA, but I am so grateful for the time I had to be with Michelle and my family.

The next weekend was the famed JVC silent retreat. Yes I said that correctly, silent retreat! 3 days of pure silence in Northern California. That Friday after work we made the drive to San Jose to do some exploring in the Northern part of our state that we have had little experience with so far. No one but Julie had ever been to San Francisco before, so we decided that the city on the bay would be the location for our Saturday events. We started our day in the Castro, had lunch at fisher mans wharf, visited the Godiva chocolate factory, took pics by the golden gate bridge (check facebook), drove through haight ashbury, and just had an overall great experience. The day ended with a wonderful dinner cooked by the gracious San Jose JV girls. Both houses were so accommodating! I also had the chance to tour the JVC Southwest office with our program coordinator Andrew, who then took us to breakfast the next morning at a nice cafe near Santa Clara. After breakfast we packed up and made the journey to Applegate, CA!

It was a fun time getting to see everyone from the Northern California houses at the retreat, but unfortunately we only had about an hour of talking before the silence of the retreat kicked in. The retreat center that we were in was beautiful. It reminded me so much of the Creighton retreat center, which was nice. All of us were paired up with a spiritual director to talk to us for one hour a day, but besides that we were in silence. My director was is an English Professor at the University of San Francisco. She was so welcoming and fascinated by the idea that I am from the Midwest ha! It was nice to have an opportunity to relax, read, pray, and workout. Those four activities occupied probably 90 percent of my time each day. Often times life gets too hectic to sit back and truly appreciate the beauty of other and of the gifts we have all been given. There is a certain beauty to silence and I was able to take full advantage of that during the three days of the retreat. The best retreat I have had with JVC this year.

After an 8 hour drive back to LA on Wednesday, I immediately caught the red eye back to Omaha for Holy Thursday. I got to see Michelle and Gordon for a few hours. Both are doing such amazing things next year. Michelle is planning to study Spanish at an immersion skill located in Bolivia (jealous!)! Gordon is going to be a JV in Tucson, AZ next year. He is going to love it and hopefully I can visit him. So proud of both of them!

On Thursday night I rode to Vermillion with my friend matt. It was so great getting to spend time with him and just talk about life. That evening we met up with our other friend adam and his fiance Emma in Vermillion and hung out for most of the night. It is not very often that the three of us are together anymore, but it is always a blast!

Friday I got to spend the day with my family! I saw all of my grandparents, spent some quality time with my siblings, and of course saw my dog cooper. My mom worked all day and my dad didn't get home until 11 from a trip, so it was kind of a bummer that I didn't get to spend more time with them. It was a blessing to get home at all for the Easter weekend though and none of my roommates were able to. There was a sad moment on the trip home when I realized that I wouldn't be able to fly for free any longer because i an turning 23..... It has been such a gift this year and I am sure that I will be missing it.

Easter Sunday Mass was at Holy Name parish right by our house. It was over two hours and worth every minute. Gospel choir and a packed church of people worshiping is always a good time. We had an Easter brunch at our house for all of the JVs. Soooo much food and so many good people. There was even a house from Northern California that stopped by on their way back from San Diego.

That night Julie and I left for a week long service trip in San Diego with Verb students, but it is getting late and I will save that for another blog. I love and miss you all. Update me on your own life!




Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Laguna Beach and Jesuit things

Since I last wrote our Program Coordinator came to town and stayed with our house/visited all of our work sites. Drew (as we call him) is such a great guy and example of what it means to be dedicated to a cause. Always a good time when he is in town.

Often times I forget that I have been living in a city that by many standards is a tourist destination. Granted most people do not make a drive through the Watts or West Adams neighborhoods when coming to LA, but I still have the opportunity to live within a short drive of so many amazing locations.

This past week Michelle and 7 of her friends came out to Laguna Beach for their spring break. This was the perfect chance for our house to make the escape down to the famous location that MTV shows are made about. So last Saturday we loaded up the 4 runner and made the hour or so drive down to the beach. It was a fun dynamic getting to introduce all of my roommates to all of Michelle's. We were only able to spend an hour or two down there but I will always take any chance I can get to lay around on a sunny beach.

One of the other JV houses had a party that night, and Michelle was finally able to meet the twenty or so other people that make up this fabulous group in LA. It was great and now she will actually know who I am referring to when I talk about people!

John and I (and 3 or 4 other JVs) are giving up alcohol for Lent and I am giving up coffee to boot. Should be a good time.

Last Sunday our house hosted an immersion group from the University of Detroit Mercy. I had never really heard of the school until this year, but it is a small Jesuit college in Detroit. They were a very engaging group, but it felt weird being one of the people that immersion trips now meet with. Just a year or two ago I was in their exact shoes. Listening to some of my roommates talk about their experiences, I almost became overwhelmed with the amount of knowledge that I have acquired so far this year in LA. It was a very good outlet to share our experiences with people who were actually captivated by our presence. Hopefully we convinced a few people to do JVC!

One of the Jesuit parishes in LA (Dolores Mission) hosted a solidarity night on "Fat Tuesday" as a way to show support for the men who do not have homes to sleep in. Every night they open up their parish and fill it with cots so that homeless men at least have a warm safe place to spend the night. On that night people were sleeping outside in the courtyard in order to get a small taste of what it is really like to not have a home to go home to. We had to be to work at 7 the next morning so we didn't spend the night, but it was an awesome experience to be surrounded by so many good people for a few hours.

Thursday night was "Mardi Gras", Verbum Dei's annual fundraiser. Julie, Carolyn, and I were all asked to help out with the event, so we were indirectly invited. The event was hosted at the California Club in downtown Los Angeles, and it was incredible. All of our tables were sold out several weeks in advance, so the room was packed with corporate sponsors, verb benefactors, and as always lots of Jesuit priests! I got the chance to meet Rick Neuheisel (UCLA Head Football coach) and a lot of other pretty big names in the LA business world. We worked the silent auction (awesome prizes!) and spent most of the night packaging items and running winner slips to the highest bidders. Overall, it was a great night and Verb was able to raise a lot of money!

This past weekend Julie lead a weekend service trip with Verb kids in LA and John/Cara went on a weekend immersion trip to Tijuana with a group from Loyola Marymount, so Carolyn and I had the house to ourselves. I was able to make one last trip to Laguna Beach Friday to say goodbye to everyone, which was great. The next day Carolyn and I went to Compton College to watch her cousin play a baseball game. Her cousin goes to Lafayette College and they are out here for a week or two playing some games over spring break. I always love baseball and we had some solid roommate bonding time.

Sunday the Jesuit residence near Dolores Mission invited us all over for dinner. Fr. Greg (from homeboy) cooked us an amazing meal and we had the opportunity to hang out as a greater LA JV community and with a few priests. The meal lasted for probably two or three hours, but it was one of those meals that could have easily lasted five or six if we had the time.

I found out that I get to help chaperon our Spring Break immersion trip to the border with Verb, which unfortunately means that I most likely wont be making it home for Easter.... But i am excited to go on it!

Miss and love you all! Update me on all of you lives, I always love that.

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Re-Oriented

True to form, I have not written a blog post for well over a month now. I think that I might make one of my Lenten goals to write weekly? It might help increase the frequency of my insightful wisdom….

The last time that I decided to write a blog post was right before my family came out to LA to visit me, so that seems like a proper place to start this current post. It is hard to truly describe my experience out here without actually showing it to people. It is hard to explain people and places to my friends and family who have never seen more than the “Disneyland” side of Los Angeles. That is what made the short trip that my mom, dad, and sister made so special.

Every month or so we have an event at Verb called “Fiesta Friday”. It is pretty much a party with all of the faculty members after school to unwind at the end of a long week. It just so happens that my parents showed up on one of these special Fridays. They were immediately welcomed into our community here at Verb and what was supposed to be a quick introduction turned into a 1 ½ hour ordeal that nobody was in any rush to leave. My parents and sister were finally able to meet most of my coworkers and get a firsthand look at what my life has been for the past 6 months. In less than 2 hours I was able to show them more than I could have described in six months on the phone, it was great.

That night I was able to take them to my casa and, like most JVs, we all jumped at the opportunity for a free meal! I spent the rest of the weekend showing them the sights of LA. We had lunch at Homegirl café, drove through Rodeo drive, shopped in Santa Monica, and had lunch on the beach in Malibu. It really made me realize how blessed I am to have such a wonderful family and to have the opportunity to spend a year in such an exciting location (it is hard to beat 70 degrees and sunny in January too). Unfortunately they were only able to stay for a few days, but it was a welcomed experience. Everyone who can: come visit!

The week after my family left we had our mid-year JVC retreat (Re-O) up in Apotos, California. It is crazy to me that we are already halfway done with this experience; it feels like I boarded a plane for San Jose yesterday! That being said, it was such a welcomed experience being back together with all of the JVs again. It is so easy to get absorbed in the microcosm that is LA and Verb, so the reminder that there are so many people doing great works all over California and Arizona was a breath of fresh air. It is safe to say that many of the speakers and activities were a bit dull at times, but overall it was wonderful. I came away with two major themes from the retreat: I am surrounded by wonderful people in JVC (especially my casa) and none of us know what we want to do with our lives.

Throughout my life, and pretty much everyone else I knows life, there has always been the lingering thought in the back of my head thinking towards the future. When I was in Junior High I thought of high school, in high school college, in college JVC, in JVC grad school, etc, etc, etc… Why is this? Shouldn’t our real goals in life be to do the absolute best at what we are currently doing and not spend so much time thinking about our next move? This has been a struggle for me in JVC, remembering that I did not do JVC so I could prepare for law school but instead doing JVC because of the fact that I wanted to do JVC. This presence of mind is something that has grown stronger in me over the past several months and Re-O was another major snap back to the present. None of us truly know (even if we think we do) what our next step is going to be, so it is really in our best interest to just do our absolute best at what we are currently engaged in and the future will truly discover itself when the time is right.

Since I haven’t written in so long, my memory has been so flooded with activities that I am going to have to return to my old reliable format of bullet points…..

- John and I got a brand new (sort of) bathroom, I would highly recommend checking it out if you are in town
- We have had some great spirituality nights
- We made pizza with one of the JV houses for Valentine’s day
- Verb made the playoffs in soccer
- College acceptance letters for students have been rolling in, so great!
- We went to the beach
- I am trying to pick a law school…
- Our house is freezing
- Julie’s dad came and visited
- Went to a glee club performance by a historically black university (Morehouse college)
- Drove a couple of routes
- Filled up a lot of vans
- Kept realizing how awesome our faculty at Verb is
- Finished the CWSP section of the yearbook!
- Tried to change a flat tire of a school van during rush hour traffic: fail
- Have done yoga 4 times, VERY difficult
- Went to Omaha/Lincoln over Presidents day weekend: Awesome!
- Found out I am going to Mexico for a service trip in April
- Saw “Black Swan”- messed up
- Saw “The Room”- incredible
- Went “shopping” with John and Julie on Rodeo drive
- Climbed the Hollywood sign
- Went to the “Getty Villa”
- Caught up with some friends
- Missed you all

I am sorry I did not go into details on so many different things! Hopefully I will be able to fulfill my Lenten promise I just made and write more frequently. Until then wishing everone the best.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

My two homes

Soooooo as I begin to write this blog post, I am realizing that it has been almost two months since I did my last one..... I am now realizing how bad I am at this! I will be leaving out many details and stories, but I will try my absolute best to hit the highlights.

  • We had an amazing Christmas party at our school( I have nothing to compare it to, but it was fun!)
  • One of the JVs who had to go home at the beginning of the year came back to visit
  • I found a Christmas tree hat in our closet, priceless
  • All the faculty/staff played "family feud" together
  • I helped one of our students write a college essay
  • We made a sweet potato dish for our party, but bought the wrong kind of potatoes......
  • It rained in LA for three straight weeks....
  • Mel came to visit me!
  • I took five Verb students to a Loyola Marymount basketball game
  • Dan came to visit again
  • We went to one of our support people's homes for a Christmas dinner
  • I had very good conversations with Hubert and Kenny at the gas station
  • We made a fancy Christmas dinner at our house: including ham, sweet potatoes, veggies, wine... it was wonderful!
  • Realized again how lucky I am to be in my house with my roommates
  • Spent four days in Tucson with the Michelle and the Souder family (they were wonderful hosts as always!)
  • One of my best friends Adam got engaged!
  • Adam asked my buddy Matt and I to be co-best men. Greatest combo ever.
  • I made it back to Sioux Falls after a few delays
  • I immediately was reminded of what cold weather feels like.....
  • Spent a WONDERFUL Christmas with my family in Sioux Falls and Brandon
  • Played a TON of Bananagrams (and scrabble)
  • Spent four days in the Black Hills with my family (except Mel.....)
  • Went skiing!
  • Was reminded of how lucky I am for my family (and my dog Cooper, I guess....)
  • Spent another night in Tucson (long story, but great!)
  • Got back to LA, it was still raining.....
  • Was pumped to see all of my roommates and everyone in LA
  • Packers made the playoffs!
  • Hit the ground running first day back at work by driving a route
  • Had some classic convos with students
  • Dave came to visit!
  • Went to a Verbum Dei winter sports pep rally
  • Hosted a Welcome Back get together at our house
  • Filled up many, many vans
  • Continued to work on Spanish
  • Started p90x (it hurts.....)
  • Went to Las Vegas with 15 JVs!
  • Realized how great the group of people I get to serve with are
  • Tried to get used to being called Mr. Petersen again
  • Our enrollment is down to 245 kids (started the year with 266....)
  • Chilled with the yearbook crew for over an hour yesterday after school
  • Went to a co-workers birthday party
  • Got stuck in traffic, many many times
  • One of my kids got called a N**** on the job......
  • Had dinner as a house with two FJVs: Rose and Marisol
  • We got two new Jesuit Novices here, so I have been talking to them quite a bit
  • John and I are getting a new bathroom. Much needed
  • My parents and sister Erin are coming this weekend. PUMPED

This is nowhere near everything that happened over the past two months for me, but right now it is what sticks out....

There are two specific stories that I left out. They might not seem huge, but to me they were just that.

Last week I was filling up a van with gas when my friend Kenny came over to me. Kenny is one of two men that actually work for the 76 gas station in Watts. I say actually work because there are usually two or three people hanging around trying to pump gas for money that have no affiliation to the gas station other than they live in the neighborhood. Now, the other worker (Hubert) has been very outgoing and friendly form the beginning (love to talk professional football), but Kenny took a little while to warm up to. It is not that he is mean, he just has to build up a certain level of friendship/trust before he with initiate conversations. After four months of seeing him twice a week, I have earned that trust. The last time he came over to me to talk, we talked about skiing, so I figured this would be another lighthearted conversation but I was wrong. All he said to me was: "Hey now, I got a lesson that I figured I should share with you. There is a big difference in life between book smarts and street smarts. Book smarts will get you a degree and a job, but street smarts will keep you alive." For some reason, that two sentence comment just stuck with me. There are two different kinds of intelligence in life, and if you and don't have both it will be hard to make it. Kenny has lived in South Central Los Angeles his whole life. He has never received a college degree. Despite this, in many ways he is smarter than me. That goes for so many people that are looked down upon in life.

The second story is an hour-long conversation that I had with one of our janitors: Gustavo. I have mentioned him many times before in this blog, but yesterday was one of the deepest conversation that I have had with him. "Gus" was born in Honduras and grew up nearly his entire life in that country. He came to the United States in the early 1990s to follow his father and pursue a better life. If I were to guess, I would say he is currently in his mid-40s. He is legally in our country on a work visa, but he has been on the waiting list for 12 years to become a citizen. That entire time he has been paying income taxes. He has spent over $10,000 on legal fees in an attempt to speed up the process, but all of that money was taken with nothing in return. He has been a janitor at Verb for over 15 years. He told me about how citizens have offered to marry him in order to make him a citizen, but he has turned them all down. "Marriage is only for love" is what he told me. He wants to retire in him home country, but he cannot go back yet because he does not have enough money. Despite all of his issues he told me two things: he believes that the United States has very good immigration laws and that he is happy. I told him that I was planning on going to law school and he was so excited for me. His exact words were: "I know you are going to be a great success." It was then I realized that he was the perfect example of selflessness.

The work I am doing here is not great. I try my best to be a great help, but it is the people around me who are great. It is the teachers who work 16 hour days sometimes. It is the janitors who are so grateful for a job that many of us would hate. It is the friend from Watts who pumps gas everyday. I am realizing more and more everyday that this is home to me. This is my family too. Not biologically, ethnically, or even geographically, something much more.

The past two months showed me that I have two homes, and I am so blessed for both.

Sunday, November 28, 2010

An Irish Butterfly in the Desert

I hope that everyone had a wonderful thanksgiving weekend. I am sad that I missed celebrating with my family this year, but I was able to instead spend it in the desert with a wonderful group of people, which I am so thankful for.


Last week we had school on Monday and Tuesday with a half day Wednesday. It was nice to have a short week of work and have an opportunity to relax. On Monday we had our faculty/staff thanksgiving party following classes. I sat at a table with six female faculty members and it may have been the most

entertaining table conversation I have been a part of in my time here. I sat next to Brandi, who is the dean of students at Verb, and she could make a Buckingham palace guard laugh. The entire conversation revolved around one of the faculty members who was going to be spending thanksgiving with her boyfriend's family for the first time and what she should/shouldn’t do. Have heard this conversation before, but it was almost always from a male perspective. Even though it was only an hour of my day, it just made me appreciate how wonderful the staff at the school really is and how lucky I am to be a part of this organization for an entire year!


Mashanda’s husband had surgery on Tuesday, so I took the early shift on Tuesday so that she could take him to the hospital. The best way to observe a class is by spending the mornings with them. Most of the guys are so used to a routine that the smallest change throws them off. Some of them just seemed shocked to see me in the morning shaking their hands as they walked in the door! It was as if they had never seen me before and was entertaining watching their reactions. The only problem with switching shifts was that I had two early days last week on back-to-back days. Needless to say working 7 to 6 can be rather tiring, so Wednesday afternoon couldn’t come soon enough. We picked up all the students from work at one Wednesday due to the holiday, so we were all able to get home by 3:15 or so to pack up the car for our drive to Phoenix. The traffic was better than I thought it was going to be, but it still took us over 8 hours to get to the JV houses. There are two houses there, and we were lucky enough to stay at the one house that had carpet (even though it was not very thick). We all went to bed pretty much right away when we got there.


It was quite odd waking up in Phoenix for thanksgiving. I am used to 20 degree weather, so when I walked outside and it was 60/sunny it really dawned on me that I am not going to be having a typical holiday season this year. The phoenix houses were wonderful hosts and pretty much did everything for us in terms of dinner preparation. All we had to do was pay 7 dollars and come ready to eat! Dinner was outside in the backyard, and it was just a great way for so many of us to still celebrate thanksgiving away from our families. That night we just hung out at their house after dinner and went to a dive bar that was four blocks away from their house.


Friday morning we decided to explore Phoenix a little bit and went hiking to a park called North Mountain. We managed to get 8 of us to go, which turned out to be a pretty good number. There are essentially 3 peaks at this park, and from the top of them you can see almost all of Phoenix. I have seen large cities before, but Phoenix is massive! In almost every direction I looked I couldn’t see the end of the city.


As I said there are 3 peaks at this park, as we neared the top of the third one there was a dog at the top barking at us. I couldn’t see the owner, but I figured that he/she was just sitting somewhere we couldn’t see. However, once we got to the top there was no one to be found, only this dog. At first I was worried it might attack one of us, but then I realized that her tail was in between her legs and she was shaking. She wasn’t mad she was scared. I went over and sat near her, and after a few minutes she slowly walked over to me and let me pet her. She had no tags and clearly had some sort of an eye infection, but besides that she seemed healthy. John and I immediately named her Mariposa, which means butterfly in Spanish, and decided that we needed to carry her down the mountain. Even though she wasn’t barking anymore, I did not know if she was going to let me pick her up. I slowly grabbed her and she let me pick her up with no sort of a struggle. For the next half hour John and I took turns carrying the dog (she peed on me twice…) and spotting each other since it was a pretty steep hike. One of the other guys called an animal shelter in the area and arranged for them to meet us at the bottom. Near the bottom we decided to set her down and see if she would follow us. She walked the rest of the way and even followed us when the path split up! At the bottom of the hill we ran into some park rangers who were going to watch over her until the shelter arrived. They said that stray dogs get released at the park all of the time, which is really too bad. We gave her some water and in any other situation but this one I would have a new dog at my house. Unfortunately that wasn’t an option, so we were forced to part ways there. I am not sure where she is now, but she made my weekend so much better!

My girl: Mariposa


That night we hung out that the other house again and managed to get to bed at a decent time. The three girls in our house and I woke up at 7 the next morning to drive back to LA. This time the drive took less than six hours without all of the traffic. You may wonder why we left so early? The reason was clear: IRISH! A JVC agency in Atlanta had tickets to the Notre Dame-USC game and donated them to JVC headquarters who passed them along to us because we are the closest house to USC. I have watched USC wipe Notre Dame clean for the passed 8 years, but I knew that this night was going to be different. So I proudly threw on a green shirt and joined in the tailgating! Carolyn and I won the house drawing for the tickets, so we found ourselves in row 93 of 93 when the game kicked off at 5. Luckily our seats were in the Notre Dame section, so my yelling was more than welcomed (I think….) by all of the fans around me. It started pouring around halftime, but that did nothing to dampen my spirits. After a long scoring drive with only 2 minutes to play, Notre Dame ended a near decade of agony with a 20-16 victory! It was a wonderful way to end my season of watching USC football.


I don’t have much of a voice today, but it was all worth it for a great weekend. I miss all of you and wish that I could have spent the holidays with my friends and family back home. I am sending lots of love from the West coast and I will see you all soon!


Sunday, November 21, 2010

Bullet Points

I know that 3 weeks is far too long between posts, so after several reminders to keep writing I decided to finally sit down and do another.

Quite a bit has happened since I last posted. I will try to sum up some of the main points before going further into a few of them:

· Went to another USC game with John

· Went back to Omaha for a long weekend!

· Hosted all of our corporate partners at Verb for an appreciation lunch

· Drove several of the van routes after drivers didn’t show up

· Our program coordinator stayed with us for a week and visited all of our jobs

· Had a house retreat

· Met with one of our Spanish teachers and got my first real lesson

· Started making the CWSP section in the yearbook

· Filled up a lot of vans with gas

· Was filled in on the path of the work study program at Verb

· Met more students!

· Had a few conversations with some homeless people

· Had a few awesome spirituality nights

· Started spiritual direction with a person who works at Loyola Marymount

· Went to a Mass at Loyola Marymount and heard a presentation about a wonderful study abroad program in El Salvador

· Got stuck in traffic

· Verb made the playoffs in football

· Verb made the playoffs in cross-country!!

· We lost 5 students from the school….

· Saw Harry potter

· Finally finished “3 Cups of Tea”, I would recommend it

· Realized how lucky I am to have such a great casa

· Realized how great the people I work with are

· A lot of other things that I can’t really remember…..

I spent last weekend in Omaha (and a wonderful 2 hours in Sioux City with my family). It was such a great opportunity to just go back and meet up with so many of my family members and friends who I am missing while here in LA. It was short, but amazing. I got to spend some good time with Michelle, Erin, my parents, grandparents, so many of my incredible friends, and the city that I grew to love in college. Not to mention I had the chance to experience 3 to 4 inches of snow on Friday night!

This past Tuesday and Wednesday I had the chance to help host an appreciation luncheon for all of our corporate partners at Verb. I was the contact for the luncheon; so for the past 4 weeks or so I have been compiling a seemingly endless excel spreadsheet with company/supervisor names. After making all of the lists, collecting student quotes, and setting up table tents it felt great to see the final result. Probably 75% of the partners came, and it was so cool seeing all of the support that the companies really have for their students/the school. Seeing our students interact with all of their supervisors gave me such a clear look at how great of a program this is.

I am having an amazing experience out here so far. I have met so many incredible people out here and was reminded this past weekend of how many loved ones I have at home too. I miss all of you, and I promise that my next post will be much closer than this one was to the last.

Sending lots of love!